Greetings, ELCA Coaches.

We are grateful to be part of a ministry, with each of you, that empowers individuals and communities, and we pray these bi-monthly updates provide encouragement on the journey. We have more surprises in store for you! Curious what they are? Our next video update is now live: Hear from ELCA Coach Jason O'Neill, who supports this ministry on a contract basis and also works part-time for the Northern Texas-Northern Louisiana (NT-NL) Synod of the ELCA.


Links and Resources to go with this video update:

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  • Recording from "Courageous Leadership" in March 2022 with Jason O'Neill: How Are You? No, Really! Processing Grief and Loss
  • Coaches certified in Grief and End of Life (including holy closures and living losses) coaching may be requested via
  • Trainings:
  • Articles:
    •  A Healthy Grief Mindset, Don Eisenhauer, Coaching at End of Life. "We are not only experiencing the Covid-19 pandemic. We are experiencing a grief pandemic – a global outbreak of grief. We have all experienced loss and continue to do so on a regular basis. The way we will face this grief depends in large part on our mindset – our way of thinking. A mindset arises out of a person’s worldview or philosophy of life; likewise, a grief mindset arises out of our view or philosophy of grief. Church leaders not only care for themselves by tending a healthy grief mindset, but can learn to coach others into one as well."
    • Feelings are passing by, Sarah Deats. “In Irish when you talk about an emotion, you don’t say, ‘I am sad.’ You’d say, ‘Sadness is on me – Ta’ Bron Orm.’ I love that because there’s an implication of not identifying yourself with the emotion fully. I am not sad, it’s just that sadness is on me for a while. Something else will be on me another time, and that’s a good thing to recognize.” - P. O. Tuama

    • Adrift, Mark Nepo. “One of the great transforming passages in my life was having cancer in my mid-thirties. This experience unraveled the way I see the world and made me a student of all spiritual paths. With a steadfast belief in our aliveness, I hope what's in this book will help you meet the transformation that waits in however you're being forged. The following piece is an excerpt from the book.”

    • An Actor, a Helmsman, and My Brian: Boldly Going Where No Widow Has Gone Before. Melissa Navia, who plays Lt. Erica Ortegas on Star Trek: Strange New Worlds, on returning for season two after a devastating, unthinkable loss.

  • Books:
    • Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, Dr. Brené Brown. “If we want to find the way back to ourselves and one another, we need language and the grounded confidence to both tell our stories and to be stewards of the stories that we hear. In Atlas of the Heart, we explore eighty-seven of the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human and walk through a new framework for cultivating meaningful connection. This is for the mapmakers and travelers in all of us.”
    • A number of books on grief and loss (available in English and Spanish) via
  • Advance registration (required) for book study on Atlas of the Heart starting Tuesday, October 4: 

    After registering, you will receive a confirmation email from Zoom. (book drawing from names of coaches registered by September 15)

  • All ELCA Coaching Trainings and Events


Here is the transcript for this video.